Hello! And welcome to this installment of my blog–where I will give you a list of questions that I like to ask myself (hence the title, duh!) and maybe…just maybe explain why this is useful for me.
Plus, I love making lists incase you couldn’t tell by several other entries.
So here it goes:
1) Do I like you…and if so why? (or the opposite, if No, then why not?)
This is a valuable question because it allows me to assess a couple different things. First off, I get to take a look at if I like you. Then, I get to explore why…do you make me feel good? Do you feed some sort of dependency issue I might have? Do you have traits that I wish I had? The possibilities are endless. If I like you for valid reasons, I will probably keep hanging out with you. If I like you for invalid reasons, I will ALSO probably keep hanging out with you…(until I am strong enough and ready to decide otherwise). If I don’t like you for invalid reasons, that actually sheds light onto a darkness that I might get to work on!
Another great question that can provide insight into my motivations…however, it can be an extremely difficult question to answer. But only because there are many motivations…and several tend to be on a more subconscious level. (Think of the tip of the iceberg analogy) This one is good to go back to again and again for the same action.
3) Why did YOU just do that?
This question can serve two purposes. One, is to practice the correct assessment of another human being. (Is this normal for your character??) Also, the answer given can possibly be the answer to question number 2. I mean, if I guess why you might do something…the answer I come up with might actually be why I might have done that thing that you just did. (ooh! Psychology, Love it!)
4) What the f***??
Other ways this question could be asked: Seriously? No joke? Are you kidding me? WTF?
This seems like a really basic question: We don’t have to get all deep…but really, what the f***? I need clarification on the physical events that just took place, then, once I’ve mentally grasped that, then I can go a little deeper if I choose.
5) Do you understand what I’m trying to say? Please repeat back what you think I just said to you.
Ahhhh…yesssss! One of my personal favorites! (Surprising, I know…it contains no profanity) But, If I desire to communicate, I want to make sure that whomever I converse with is understanding my meaning. Know what I mean? I’m sure every one of us has been in a situation that has spiraled out of control because of a miscommunication somewhere along the line.
6) Wait, what did you just say?
(The sister question of number 5) Not only do I want my point to be understood, but I also want to understand what others are trying to say to me. This could make for a fantastic conversation…and then it could further develop into a fantastic friendship, who knows?
and that leads to my final question:
7) No, seriously. Who really does know?
Because I sure don’t. And, I would really like to know. This is helpful in almost every aspect of life; don’t know how to do something? or where something is? or how to get help?
Wow…this list could go on. But, These are definitely my favorite ones to ask. They have helped me to do such things as the following: introspection, transformation, take responsibility for my actions, and find a little more peace and happiness.